WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS

SUBJECT TODAY THE YEAR OF THE CHEATERS TIGER WOODS JESSE JAMES THE LIST GOES ON….BUT WHAT THEY ALL FAILED TO REALIZE IN THERE CHEATING WAYS IT TAKES A BOY TO LOVE A MILLION WOMAN BUT TAKES A MAN TO LOVE A WOMAN IN A MILLION DIFFERENT WAYS

There’s a saying behind every good man is a good woman..but like Sisqo said u could have everything but without the good woman in your life Life is truly incomplete.

I get pissed when people who have everything in the world for them all the money all the glitz and glamour but behind that for a man who has all the bling is usually a good woman who is fine as hell but then the Kobe Bryants, Eric Benet’s Rick Fox’s Tiger Woods out there or the club heads that come to the club who have a good or man or woman at home fuck it up for all the people out there who don’t cheat …

You probably thinking as you are reading my thoughts not another sad song about demonic men or treasonous women. Well, I hope that I can add something different to a subject that is more discussed than JLO’s ass: Cheating. What an ugly word. I don’t know of any other word that has no redeeming value. B**** and D*** are unflattering as adjectives, but even they can be used positively in a sentence. Adjective, adverb, or noun, there is no positive connotation to the word.

There was a time that men managed a monopoly on the subject, but women have managed to even the odds considerably. People cheat in relationships for a myriad of reasons, and everyone has the justification and rationales to match every occasion. Being unfulfilled, bored, and having an insatiable sex drive always make the top ten.

Men try and maintain that is simply their animalistic nature to seek no need, more than one partner and women have successfully petitioned against that double standard.

I am not always sure about the natural element of monogamy. I think it works naturally for a very small percentage of people. For the rest, it is a matter of conditioning and essentially buying into the system. That may sound like a less than romantic viewpoint on the subject but think about it.

If you believe in relationships and the idea of committing to someone you have to accept the balancing act of the concessions needed to be involved with that person. It is easy to accept that women have dictated the philosophies and importance of monogamy in relationships. If given the chance men would always keep their options open, but they in fact love the idea of their woman being completely faithful. So men make the concession, at least verbally, to stay faithful just to ensure that their woman does.

Cheating is an inherently selfish act. Whether the justification is made because of a void in your relationship, the drive to placate an active libido or the need for diversity in your diet, people cheat for selfish reasons. Now the downside of cheating is only normally discussed in reference to someone getting caught. From the obviousness of getting caught in the act to strong suspicions that won’t go away, we probably wouldn’t even discuss the subject if people weren’t so sloppy and inconsistent in their behavior.

Though it doesn’t necessarily deter many of us, we are all well aware of the fallout from cheating. Pain, heartache, breakups of not only individuals but families, and lack of trust.

One often overlooked element to cheating is how much it actually hurts relationships even when no one is actually caught.

When someone cheats in what is supposed to be a committed, monogamous, relationship he or she is essentially taking away time, money, and feelings from their partner.

Your actions are also dictating that you do not buy into the relationship system and if you do not fully buy into them you will never give it or your partner the proper time and attention it needs to grow into something substantial.

Who are we kidding, relationships are work, and like a job, we have two choices. You commit to it and put in the hours and energy and the politicking necessary to make it work or your bulls***, clock in, cash a check until they either fire you or you find something else first.

The bottom line is you have a choice, and if conventional relationships are not for you then either find an unconventional partner or don’t agree to commit.

In the end, it is a waste of your time and someone will invariably get hurt. But, if you are going to commit to Commitment then do it all the way. If it doesn’t work then you have the closure of knowing that you did everything possible and it wasn’t the right situation. Breaking up is never easy, but when it is filled with regrets it that way makes the breakup so much more difficult. So do not cheat yourself or your partner.